How Bad Do You Want It?
As we enter into a new year with so many unknowns ahead, a common tradition is to set resolutions for the year. The mindset is often, “New year, New you”! Indeed it is a new year, a fresh start, a new beginning, but the “New you” is the main focus of what resolutions are all about. Year after year we set and attempt to achieve personal resolutions. We start off great, ready for change and are excited about improving, but about four to six weeks in, the resolutions fall to the wayside. Why is that? Why can’t we sustain or keep the momentum of commitment going?
One major reason is because there isn’t a clear understanding of what is involved in making and attaining a set resolution.
Making the Decision to Change
Oxford dictionary defines a resolution as a firm decision to do or not to do something. In other words, a resolution is a promise to yourself that typically implies a direction you wish to take to improve or better your way of life. Resolutions are generally broad and open-ended. Moreover, the problem isn’t making the decision or promise for change, but developing the steps or behaviors needed to be successful in that decision.
The change when making a resolution is found in the journey. The journey is where one will find the steps or behaviors to fuel the success of the resolution. These steps are referred to as goals. Oxford Dictionary defines a goal as the object of a person’s ambitions or efforts; an aim or desired result. Ambitions are what drive them to keep pushing to achieve the resolution. The goals keep the process of progress going and provide bouts of encouragement and feelings of success along the way.
Three Step Resolution
When you sit down to reflect and make your 2021 resolutions, take it a step further by including the goals that will help attain and sustain the resolutions thus making them unbreakable. Here are a few tips to help guide you in the process of making long-lasting resolutions.
- Attainable-Decide on resolutions that are just beyond your reach that will stretch you , but not too far out of reach that they will easily discourage you. You can always go back and build on it as you progress.
- Write it down-Be specific! Use positive language in the details of your goals. You will be more responsive to reading what you can do versus what you can’t do. Keep it at about three goals per resolution.
- Consistency– Plan out what you aim to achieve (daily, weekly, monthly) and reflect on the impact of that action.